There is no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few signs to read in order to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you would like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention on how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you are together.

how to know if a person truly loves you

See if the person can act naturally around you.

Part of being in love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn’t show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you’re alone, then they are really opening up to you and loves you.

  • If the person shares their deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that could be love.
  • If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in their teeth around you, that means they are okay if you see every side of them.

Gauge if the person is happy to be around you. 

This should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when they see you, then that’s a sign of love. If they are in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make them feel better — if only a little bit.

  • The next time they’re grumpy or have a bad day, see how they react in your presence.

Notice if the person gives you googly eyes. 

Though this may be silly, check out your loved one’s face the next time you see them. Do they look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as “googly-eyed”? You will know it when you see it. You won’t get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table.

True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance they truly love you.

If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then they may really love you.Your loved one doesn’t have to shower you with compliments all the time — it’s the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.
how to know if a person truly loves you

See if the person is giddy around you. 

Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever they are around you? If so, then this may be love.

  • If you’ve said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then they may be lovesick.
  • If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then they may just be excited by your presence.

Ask yourself if the person is upset when you are. 

If you are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If they truly love you, then they’ll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very upset because they’ll want you to feel better as soon as you can.

  • Though they don’t have to be as upset as you are, the person should clearly be affected by your mood because all they want is for you to be happy.

Notice if the person talks positively about your future together.

If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being in their future is an absolute given, not something that they would ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about what you’re going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then they are probably in love with you.

See if the person gives you meaningful compliments.

There’s a difference between saying, “I like your new haircut” and “You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what.” If the person gives you compliments that show that they really appreciate the important aspects of your character and personality, then there’s a good chance they really love you. 

Determine if the person means every “I love you”. 

Remember that there is a big difference between “Love ya!” and “I love you.” If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it’s likely that they really mean it.If the person undeniably loves you, then they will say it for no reason at all, not just because they need a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say.

how to know if a person truly loves you

See if the person really opens up to you. 

If your loved one really loves you, then they will really open up to you and tell you what they are thinking, feeling, fearing, and longing for. If the person really opens up about their childhood, greatest regrets, most painful moments, or most romantic dreams for the future, then it’s likely that they like you because the person is so comfortable telling you about almost everything.

  • If the person tells you, “I’ve never told anyone this before…”, then there’s a good chance that they really love and trust you.

Expect to be missed when apart.

If you and your loved one are apart, but they still text you, call you, or email you to let you know how much they miss you, then it means they can’t imagine their life without you. If you go on a three-week vacation and don’t hear a word from them, then it may not be love.

  • They don’t have to call you constantly to let you know if they miss you.

Hope to have your mistakes corrected.

If that person truly loves you, then they don’t have an idealized picture of you in their mind. If it’s truly love, then that person will be comfortable with telling you when you’ve made a mistake, said something illogical, or acted badly. Though the person shouldn’t criticize you all the time, giving you a healthy amount of criticism just means that the person really knows you in and out and accepts your mistakes as well as your best qualities.

  • If the person neverargues with you or never criticizes you, then you should be on the look out. Make sure that the person truly loves you instead of an ideal version of who you are.

See if the person truly values your opinion. 

If the person truly loves you, then they’ll care about what you think — whether it’s about their new pair of shoes or the political situation in your country. If they really love you, they’ll ask for your advice and opinions, whether it’s on big or small matters. They may feel self-conscious about asking for your opinion, but they’ll do it because they love you.