Getting through fear is a skill that anyone can learn. The problem is that most people cling to their fears because it’s part of who they are. If you aren’t ready to face your fears, you probably won’t transcend them. And there’s nothing wrong in that. Everything happens in its own time.Faith is the antidote for the disease named fear. If you’re reading this article though, I’m pretty sure that you’re ready to take another step forward.
“Fear feeds on the unknown”
Imagine the very worst thing that could happen and decide what you would do if that happened. I did this when I had breast cancer. Being positive wasn’t helping me much so I decided to take a hard look at what I was afraid of. It was dying and leaving my very young children motherless. I was a single mother at the time because my ex-husband “couldn’t handle cancer” and my children were newborn, 2 and 3 years old. I planned my funeral, set all my “end of life” decision into place, made plans for my children and where they would go, I recorded messages to each of them on videotape for their weddings, high school graduations, and any other big events I could think of. When I was all done planning for my death, I was fully and completely free to deal with the task of getting better. I had no more worries because all my fears had been dealt with. It was incredibly freeing and here I am 18 years later to prove that planning for your funeral or signing a donor card does not cause your death.
“Fear feeds on inaction.”
They are created by my imagination to make reality seem scarier than it is. When you take action and face your fears, they become weaker, because you realize that reality isn’t nearly as bad as your imagination. Do something, anything.
“Fear feeds on indecision”
Make a decision. Do not sit around waiting for proof of a certain outcome. That rarely ever happens so nothing will get done. In the meantime, look at the facts and make the decision that best suits those facts. If you make a crappy decision? Read Fear feeds on perfectionism.
Say “Why not?” or “I can!” rather than I can’t. If you are truly incapable of doing a large task, find a smaller task within it that you can do. You can always contribute something.
“Fear feeds on feelings of unworthiness”
Imagine the very best thing that could happen and try to feel how you would feel if that happened. You do deserve good things to happen to you. You must believe that to help erase/minimize your fear.
Fear feeds on lies”
Whether it is lies told about you or lies you tell yourself to make you feel better, you are feeding fear. Just deal with the facts. They are far less scary than they appear when you are still hiding from them.
“Fear feeds on feelings of impossibility”
Look at what is possible and believe in your abilities to work towards that goal rather than just saying “This is impossible!” 2 years ago if you had told me where my life would be right now, I’d have thought you were on crack. “Impossible!” I would have said. Yet I took small steps each and every day and I am here now. I didn’t even know where I was heading but small steps and little decisions have moved me a far away from where I was back then. You can do the same thing.
“Fear feeds on suffocation”
Take in the air instead of holding your breath. Allow yourself to breathe. Really nice breaths. Most people only use the top of their lungs and rarely fill all the way to their diaphragm. I did the really shallow breathing for so long that my first few days of taking deeper breaths actually hurt me physically. Now I realize that those nice deep breaths help you to think more clearly and with a calmer demeanor.
“Fear feeds on perfectionism”
Embrace mistakes rather than appearing as though you don’t make any. I am the last one to preach to anyone else about perfectionism but I have learned how to make light of my mistakes by saying things like” Well, I guess I have to make a mistake at least once a year.” It makes people laugh and allows me to admit that I am not perfect. I know this will shock you but I’m not.
“Fear feeds on waiting for the right time.”
Take a small step each day rather than waiting to be able to run a marathon in some future tomorrow. Each step makes the journey appear possible to you rather than only seeing the huge end goal. I have been doing this for weight loss. I have a LOT to lose so rather than a huge number; I lose a pound a time. When I get down that pound, I strive for the next one down. Can anyone lose one pound right?
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