Obsessive exes are so annoying, aren’t they? The relationship may be done, but your ex is not moving on! Having an obsessive ex-lover may be stressful, and scary but you cannot allow it to keep you from continuing to move on. These simple steps may help you get rid of them.
1. Matuto kang huwag siyang pansinin.
They are obsessive because they do not get it. They will not leave you alone. Learn to ignore them. If you continue indulging them, they will never leave. Simply ignore his/her calls, texts, emails etc. For a chiq, in case he’s being particularly obsessive or you’re feeling particularly vicious, get a male friend to answer his calls.
2. Lumayo ka kung maaari.
Hanging around a boy that still loves you may give him the idea that he could still get you back, and could hurt any possible new relationship you have. Let him know you’re doing it because it’s best and keep him as far apart as you can.
3. Maging prangka ka.
Sometimes you need to be assertive to get your point across with someone. Have you ever been in a relationship where when the person is trying to break up with you they tend to make a flower speech, and you end up confused? Avoid making this mistake. Speak clearly, and use simple terms for them to understand.
4. Maging matatag.
Do not tell him/her that you are better off alone, but then return the next week because you’re lonely. Don’t tell them you prefer to keep a distance but talk to the person every day. S/he’ll try to get your attention for as long as you are willing to give it, and that only hurts them more and creates a hard situation for everyone. Be strong! Stand your ground!
5. Matutong rumespeto.
Explain your side of the situation and why you think the relationship can’t work. Assure her than she doesn’t want a relationship with someone who doesn’t love her. Encourage her to find a partner that will meet her needs better than you can. Try not to hurt her feelings but don’t lead her on either.
6. Ipaliwanag mo sa kanya kung bakit hindi mo na sya gusto.
Make sure that you clearly communicate to him why things are over and why you do not want to get back together. It is hard enough for a man to get over you when he knows you no longer want him, imagine how much harder it is if he thinks that there’s a chance. Tell it like it is: the truth hurts, but hey, no pain no gain.