A good relationship is supposed to enhance your life, make your happier, boost your self-confidence, make you believe stronger in your own decisions and every else good in life becomes more clear, that’s what a good relationship does, a bad relationship does everything the exact opposite. Here are the top signs that you’re in a wrong relationship.
1. Hindi kayo komportable sa isa’t-isa.
It takes a while to feel at ease with a new partner, and most of us feel anxious and eager to impress someone when we start dating. But we also usually develop some degree of comfort with a new partner soon after we get serious — and that comfort helps lay some of the groundwork for developing a lasting relationship.
2. Hindi kayo nagkakasundo sa mga gusto nyo.
If you and your partner seem to have almost nothing in common — from your tastes in movies to your beliefs about how people should conduct themselves in relationships — you’re not only going to experience needless stress; you may also have a rough time bonding. Trying to build a life together with someone who doesn’t understand your jokes, your values, why you’re obsessed with your job or why you love your collection of vintage Pokemon figurines can be really difficult. If you’re making it work with your cartoon cat and you’re happy, good for you! But if you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall every time you try to make your partner see your point of view, it could be time to rethink your relationship.
3. Hindi ka masaya sa relasyon nyo.
If being with your partner makes you feel a lot of things, but “happy” is rarely one of them, it’s worth it to really reassess your relationship. A lot of us hear phrases like “all relationships are work” and get confused, thinking that it means that it’s normal for a relationship to make you feel as exhausted and drained as you do coming home from working a double shift. But all people mean when they say relationships are “work” is that it’s not cool to go on autopilot and totally tune your partner out after a certain period of time together. They don’t mean that relationships you should make you feel so crappy, you feel like you should be getting paid to stay in them.
4. Yung kaligayahan nya na kasalalay sayo.
Whether your partner is in a pit of despair or erupting in anger, he or she makes you feel that you are somehow to blame, and it’s your job to change whatever it is that you have done or said to make them feel bad,” she says. “Whatever you do or say to remedy the situation is inevitably wrong and makes your partner feel worse, which is, of course, your fault. You are always on eggshells and you feel the walls closing in on you. This kind of relationship is poison; get out ASAP.
5. Walang araw na hindi kayo nag-aaway.
Another sign of an unhealthy relationship that a lot of people overlook is constant fighting. Now, every relationship has its bumps, especially if you two are living together, but if you’re always fighting with him over the smallest things and you are frequently being picked at by him, that might not be a good relationship to be in. Remember, the good times should outweigh the bad times, not the other way around.