When a relationship is over, let go and move on in a healthy way to attract the right one for you. Some people believe holding on and hanging in are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. Paano nga ba mag move on? Simple lang, read the steps below.
1. Tanggapin mo ng maluwag sa puso mo na hindi talaga siya para sayo.
A large portion why you can’t move on is probably because you keep seeing him/her as “the one” for you. You just can’t see yourself with anyone else but him/her. Such fixations are dangerous. This leads you to linger on and on, hoping for a “someday” which will never come. If he/she is the right person, you guys would have been together regardless of how wrong the place or timing is. That’s why it’s called the right person.
2. Iwasang tingnan ang facebook profile ni ex. Wag stalk ng stalk para di lalong masaktan.
Stay away from social media for a while. Though you may be tempted to log on to your Facebook to see if there are any pictures of your ex with a new cutie, this will only prolong your pain and may even make you feel a bit obsessive. Even if you’re determined not to contact your ex on social media, you won’t be able to stop wondering if he saw your latest photos or your latest post. Alternatively, try blocking or “unfriending” your ex. This can be a very tangible way of signaling that the relationship is over.
3. Itapon/Itago lahat ng bagay na makakapagpapaalala sayo sa kanya.
The process would be hurtful but at the end you will feel alleviated. You may not want to destruct everything because forgiving and letting go of the relation does not mean you wouldn’t like to be reminded of the person whom you loved. So keep them aside to be looked at when you have moved on completely.
4. Sumama sa mga totoong kaibigan. Siguradong nandyan lang sila para sayo.
You don’t have to go through moving on alone. Your true friends are there for a reason, to help you, support you, and pull you through that period. Their overwhelming patience will make you very grateful for who they are and your friendships. This experience will undoubtedly strengthen your friendships.
5. Ienjoy mo lang ang buhay bilang single.
Enjoy being single first. Don’t try to look around for the next rebound opportunity the second that you break up. Instead, take the time to enjoy being single and doing whatever you want whenever you want it. Many people in relationships would love to be single–at least for a little while–so you should look at it as an adventure instead of as a problem.
6. Matutong magpatawad.
We may not have to forget another person’s bad behaviors, but virtually everybody deserves our forgiveness. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agreewith what you did, but I forgive you anyway.” Forgiveness is a way of tangibly letting something go. It’s also a way of empathizing with the other person, and trying to see things from their point of view.