There are hundreds of thousands of people who leave various kinds of relationships every day. There are things you can do to move on when you are wondering how to deal with heartache. This is not to say you forget what you’ve gone through. However, healing is your first priority after you’ve had a chance to grieve, and this is how you learn to move on after a breakup or broken relationship of any sort. Here are some tips you can begin to move forward after a separation.
1. Maglaan ka ng isang gabi na aalahanin mo lahat ng nangyare sa inyo. Pero sabihin mo sa sarili mo na ito na ang huling araw ng pag-iyak at pagalala mo sa nakaraan ninyo.
It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
2. Magpaganda ka lalo. Ipakita mong hindi ka deppressed. Ipakita mong malakas ka.
Give yourself some me time. You’ve probably been in a relationship for a while, or maybe you’ve been thinking about that person non-stop for months. Now is the time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next challenge. Everyone falls down. It’s how you get back up that defines you.
3. Huwag kang magpadala sa emotions mo. Sabihin sa sarili na kaya mong maka MOVE ON.
Most people going through a breakup are constantly reliving and thinking about the negative aspects of that relationship, and it takes a toll in the way of low self-esteem and decreased confidence. Start by spending at least 10 minutes each day reciting positive thoughts or affirmations. For example: “I am strong, confident, attractive and make a great life partner. I CAN MOVE ON!”
4. Gumimik kasama ang tropa.
While you were in a relationship, you probably forgot all about your friends. If you’re lucky, they haven’t all forgotten about you. Breakups are tough, but they can be easier to endure if you have someone to talk to and share your thoughts with. Of course, don’t go running to your friends only for a shoulder to cry on. Start spending quality time with them. Getting out with your friends will remind you that you are still capable of having fun. In the beginning, it will be difficult to stay positive or find the motivation to be out in the social world. But, sooner or later, you will begin to feel better. It will also chase away any ridiculous notions that you can’t possibly be happy without him.
5. Sabihin sa sarili na tapos na ang lahat at wala nang babalikan pa.
If a relationship didn’t work out, then there’s a reason for it. You two were not meant to be together. You may have wanted things to work out, but they didn’t. It is time to move on. A big part of moving on is to remind yourself that the boy was just a boy. He was one of many. You may have loved him, but he is not the most special person in the world – at least not any longer. If he was the right one, then you two could have made it work. Now that he’s gone, it’s good to remember that there are lots and lots of good looking, single guys out there; and there’s one that’s waiting for you.
6. Huwag bigyan ng ala-ala ang lahat ng bagay na nakikita. Katulad ng, nakakita lang ng jeep eh naalala na yung magkasabay kayong umuwi at holding hands pa sa byahe.
Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.
7. Huwag mong isipin nakakalimutan mo na siya, dahil hindi mo sya maaaring makalimutan. Depende nalang kung ibagok mo yung ulo mo at magka amnesia ka.
You’re not trying to pretend like the person never existed, just temporarily forget how much they meant to you and how they broke your heart.