Love is not an emotion – it is our natural state of being, and it connects us with everybody and everything in the Universe. Of course the bonds are invisible, but they form an infinite field of consciousness that we are all part of. When we fall in love we know ourselves as love and feel the joy of our personal and Universal connections. It feels so wonderful because we are allowing ourselves to feel all the love that is available to us – we are going home spiritually. But the problem is that we start to get frightened of so much love and start denying it. Before long fear and insecurity return to our lives and the feelings of love fade.
1. Maraming tao ang ayaw magmahal. Ayaw na masaktan lalo na ang maiwanan. Sino ba naman ang gaganahan magmahal kung sa panahon ngayon uso na ang agawan.
We all wish to love and be loved, but notwithstanding, many of us are scared of love. Love encompasses trust and it is hard to trust: Nowadays it is very equally hard to trust one another, not even oneself. People are scared to trust someone. They are scared of the consequences this might bring. We fall in love and become deliriously happy and then fall out of love again and become miserable. Romantic love seems transient and fickle. But this is to completely misunderstand love.
2. Masarap magmahal ng manloloko, hindi dahil gusto mong magpaloko kundi dahil gusto mo syang magbago lalo na pag narinig mo sa kanyang “sa dami ng niloko ko, ikaw naba ang karma ko?”
Quite often, however, even when clear signs of cheating are present, people go into denial. They don’t want to believe it is happening. So in order to preserve the illusion of their monogamous relationship, they pretend everything is okay and try to avoid confrontation. Sometimes, people intend to love the cheaters, not because they wanted to be cheated but because they want to hear from them that being with them was the best feeling ever.
3. Kahit anong inis pa ang nararamdaman mo, pangalan pa din nya ang hihintayin mong lumitaw sa cellphone mo.
Being in a relationship is not that easy. Sometimes, you feel bored; you always get irritated with your partner, feeling annoyed every time he/she did something that you don’t like. But no matter what happened, no matter how irritated you are for him or how stubborn he is, you still want him in your life. You still want him to be part of your everyday living, you still want him to see every time you open your eyes ever single morning, you still want his name appear in your cell phone every time you receive a text message. It is because you love him no matter how hard the situation seems to be.
4. Hindi porket hindi ka na nya pinapansin ay hindi ka na mahalaga. Mahirap lang talagang pumapel sa buhay ng taong masaya na.
In an ideal world, of course, every failed relationship would finish in the grown-up way that counselors advise, in order to avoid the messy frayed ends of ‘unfinished business’. Saying goodbye without having a really honest conversation makes it so hard to accept what has happened.
5. Hindi ba ang sarap isipin na maraming nangangarap mahalin ka pero magiging masaya ka ba sa marami kung ang kaisa-isang pinapangarap mo ay hindi pala kabilang sa maraming naghahangad sayo.
The thought of loosing that special someone in the long run is frightening. No matter what the timeline, the story of lost love is one most of us can tell. This leaves the question “why do relationships fail?” to linger heavily in the back of our minds. The answer for many of us can be found within. Whether we know it or not, most of us are afraid of really being in love. While our fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of a relationship, we all harbor defenses that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt.
6. Hindi ipinagyayabang ang bilang ng mga nagiging karelasyon mo. Tandaan mo, habang padami sila ng padami, padumi ka ng padumi.
Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is normal. They can be our inspiration but obviously takes a lot of time. The opportunities for meeting people – especially those with similar interests and goals and outlooks in life – during those years are often a lot greater than before or afterwards. It’s also a good time to mingle and figure out what you’re really looking for in a long term partner. Some people tend to boast about how many girlfriends/boyfriends they had, without even thinking that it can make their reputation worst in the eyes of other people.